This is a workshop for women who have felt overwhelmed and exhausted by everything they had to do, yet still worried they were not doing “enough.” We’ll explore not only the daily practices that expand our capacity to cope, but also the larger-scale social pressures that make those daily practices feel “selfish” or “indulgent,” when in fact they are basic human needs. The biggest social culprit is something we call “Human Giver Syndrome,” which says we owe it to our loved ones and even to ourselves to be pretty, happy, calm, generous and attentive to the needs of others, no matter the cost to our well-being. Is there a way to be deeply invested in our loved ones’ happiness without divesting from our own health? Can we help keep others warm without setting ourselves on fire? Yes. With the support of each other and four decades of science, participants will leave the workshop with a plan and a new vocabulary for sustaining their own well-being. This workshop is for women only. All self-identifying women are welcome.
The authors of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle will help writers avoid and cope with burnout. Writers can select from among at least a dozen evidence-based strategies for dealing with stress or burnout that they can begin today. They also will recognize the ways gendered expectations of “giving” serve as an obstacle between us and our own well-being and explain to loved ones why and how to collaborate on self-care.
You’ve heard the usual advice over and over: exercise, green smoothies, self-compassion, colouring books, mindfulness, bubble baths, gratitude… you’ve probably tried a lot of it. Sometimes it helps, at least for a while. But what happens when the real stuff kicks in – when the kids are struggling at school or your partner needs support or a new work project lands in your lap last minute?
Self-care has to then be side-lined, but what can you do during this time?
Sisters Emily and Amelia Nagoski have the answers. To tackle stress, you must separate the emotion of stress with the things that cause you stress – like work, money, body image, and cultural expectations. Like the digestive system, stress is a cycle you have to complete in order to release it. When your body is able to release the stress it holds, it resets itself and is able to meet the next challenge with ease.
2019 has been described as the ‘Year of Burnout’ and with symptoms such as emotional exhaustion, imposter syndrome and a reduced sense of accomplishment it's one we’re keen to avoid.
But what if Burnout is beyond our individual control, due instead to the gap between what it's like to be a woman and our expectations of how women should be? What if we're exhausting ourselves trying to close the space between the two that is causing the Burnout in the first place?
As Dr Emily Nagoski explains ‘it’s hard to lean in at work when you’re already giving 110% and no one is noticing’. Both Emily and Dr Amelia Nagoski will be at Salon London to explain why the problem isn’t you - and what you can do about it.
Doors 7pm, 19 March. Central London location.
Burnout happens, even to the most accomplished and successful people, when they can successfully complete big projects, triumphantly crossing the finish line… and still felt worn out and beat up. Even if you feel like there's not enough vacation in the world to help you recover, there's SCIENCE that can help! Come learn four evidence-based strategies for treating the root causes of burnout and making your life almost - almost - burnout-proof.
There are so many reasons to write about sex. Maybe you’re writing a novel or short story and your characters get busy. Maybe you want to write a sexy email to your certain special someone. Maybe you’re keeping a sex journal or writing a sexual memoir, to document your personal journey. Maybe writing is how you process a trauma. Whatever the reason, writing about sex can be transformative – but it can also be intimidating. Does it sometimes squick you out? Do you fret over the “choreography”? Are you not sure you actually know enough about sex to write about it? In this workshop, Bird by Bird meets the science of sex. Through a series of short assignments, participants will write shitty first drafts of a sex scene, based on three central findings from the science of sex: the brain mechanism that governs sexual response; the differences between arousal and pleasure; and the impact of stress and love on sexual desire and pleasure. Half writing time, half teaching time.